SCAMS YOU SHOULD NEVER FALL FOR AS A LADY
—Because You Deserve Better
Have you ever found yourself believing a lie simply because it was coated with sweet words and empty promises? Many ladies have been misled by emotions, manipulated by smooth talkers, and deceived into choices that left them with scars—emotional, mental, and sometimes physical.
The truth? A lot of men know exactly what to say to make you fall. And when you do, they vanish, leaving you to pick up the pieces alone.
These are not just mistakes. They are scams—emotional, sexual, and psychological scams. And sadly, the woman bears the pain every time.
Here are some common lies you should never fall for:
- “I will marry you, just get pregnant first:
This is one of the most dangerous traps.
Marriage is not proven by pregnancy. A real man marries you before asking for a child, not the other way around. If he disappears after the pregnancy (which many do), guess who suffers? You. You’re left with the shame, the responsibility, and the emotional trauma.
Don’t trade your peace for his promise. Don’t be the girl others use as a sad example. Keep your body and your heart safe. Those whose bride prices were paid before pregnancy are not better than you—they were just wiser in that area. Be wise too. - “Just allow me, I’ll take care of you.”
They say this, and once they “have their way”, they change like night and day.
Some don’t even invest their time or energy in you, yet they want your body. That’s not love, sis. That’s selfishness dressed in fake affection.
Your body is not a reward for empty promises. Virginity is not outdated—it’s a gift, an honor you give yourself. Keep it with pride.
True love waits. Lust rushes. - “If you love me, you’ll prove it:
That’s emotional blackmail in disguise.
Love isn’t proven by giving in sexually. If he truly loves you, he’ll wait, respect your boundaries, and protect your values—not pressure you into betraying them. Love is patient. Love is kind. Not forceful. - “You’re not like other girls, you’re different.”
This line sounds flattering, but it’s often a setup to make you feel special just long enough to get what they want.
If you’re truly different, prove it by standing your ground. You don’t have to lower your standards to keep a man. The right one will meet you at your values—not drag you below them. - “Nobody will know, it’s just between us.”
Even secrets have consequences. That one night of ‘nobody will know’ can lead to a lifetime of ‘I wish I never did.’
There is no shame in saying NO. There is only strength. Protect your peace, protect your heart, protect your future.
Gift Nkemakolam Omenka
Reformers Builders Network